At this time of loss, please know that the prayer and concern of the community of St. John Neumann is with you.
As Christians, we find hope in this time of loss. We believe death is not and end, but a beginning; that the one you love has passed through death from this temporary life to a perfect and everlasting one. We believe that while death separates us now, it will be for just a short while. We will again be reunited in a dwelling place provided for us by God. The funeral Mass especially expresses this faith in Jesus’ victory over death and our personal share in that resurrection. It does so through prayer and blessings, through songs and reading, through rituals and symbols.
You will have the opportunity to meet with our priests to discuss the options for Mass. We have information below to help prepare you in making some of those decisions.
Wake Vigil Service
The service will normally be presided by a deacon at 7:30 pm on the evening prior to the funeral.
Music affects our feelings and the atmosphere in which we pray. In the spirit of Christian death, we recommend that you consider hymns and songs which are joyful. The music director can help you with selections.
We have a listing of scripture readings from which to choose. You may pick one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament and a Gospel reading. Family members and friends are encouraged to read your selections from the Old and New Testaments, and the Prayers of the Faithful. Father will read the Gospel.
Presentation of the Gifts
The Church encourages family members or friends to bring to the altar the gifts of bread and wine for the Eucharistic Celebration. 2 people may be chosen.
Words of Remembrance
Rockford Diocese Norms for Speaking at Funerals
1. In the Diocese of Rockford, it is recommended that the Vigil (Wake) is the most appropriate time for members of the family and friends to share memories of the deceased or to pay tribute to the deceased through vocal remembrances, photographs, favorite songs, etc.
2. The reception after the burial is another appropriate time for the remembrances because there is less of an emotional burden and the context is looking toward the future in a more positive manner.
3. If a family member wishes to express appreciation or say something in remembrance at Mass, the following are to be firmly observed:
- Only one family member or friend is to speak.
- The words to be shared must be in writing and approved in advance by the priest celebrant.
- Because of the intensity of emotions at the time of a funeral, the person who will speak is to be brief, that is, no more than five minutes.
- This faith-remembrance is to take place after the Prayer after Communion.
- Because this is not part of the Liturgy of the Word, this remembrance is not to take place at the ambo, but at another appropriate place of the priest, the celebrant’s choosing.
A luncheon is offered to parishioners, which is prepared and ready to serve after the burial. Because of the many weekend activities, we are unable to offer luncheon on Saturdays.
Out of Town Burial
If the burial will take place out of the St. Charles area, Father will not be able to attend. The funeral director has a Prayer Service and is able to preside.
Music: $100 for the Accompanist and $85 for the Cantor.
Luncheon: You are asked to pay for the main dish. Salads and desserts are provided.
Priest: A goodwill offering